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閱讀-﹝你...為什麼要道歉?!﹞

只要身為家長,就很有可能會面臨這種情況這篇是一個很值得參考學習的範例 ! 小孩跟大人一樣,都會犯錯,可以糾正還要教育,不要代替他道歉或奪走他學習的機會! 說起來容易,文中的處理者超厲害的啦!! EQ超高的!! 不管你現在是否有小孩~ 都一定可以感受到那個小孩有多委屈。

雖然我的"叫小"沒那麼好,還是很想學習一下。


Subject: 為什麼妳要道歉                                                 
                                                                           
「小外甥在學校闖禍了!」接到爸爸的電話。                                  
                                                                           
「什麼事啊?!」我問。                                                    
                                                                           
「聽說把小朋友打到流鼻血啦!」                                            
                                                                           
爸爸有些緊張,他要我立即前往學校了解情況並處理。                          
                                                                           
我一直很疼小外甥,他個性很憨厚,為何會出手打人呢?我實在搞不懂!          
                                                                           
於是立即放下手邊工作,逕往學校去……                                        
                                                                           
進導師辦公室時,映入眼簾的是:                                            
                                                                           
我的大姊一直彎腰卑恭的向對方家長道歉…                                     
                                                                           
但是對方家長似乎完全不領情,脾氣火得像什麼似的…                           
                                                                           
對方家長還一直說要找警察來,一定要把小外甥關起來…!!!                   
                                                                           
看看站在一旁的小外甥,他的臉色鐵青,一肚子火氣,                          
                                                                           
我知道他從小的脾氣就是拗,但是從來不和人惡搞的!                          
                                                                           
他今天動手打人,我相信一定有他的原因…                                     
                                                                           
                                                                           
                                                                           
我一進去導師室,什麼話都懶得說,直接抱起了小外甥,說:                    
                                                                           
『不要怕!舅舅來了!你什麼話都可以說!』                                  
                                                                           
這時小外甥終於忍不住哭了起來…                                             
                                                                           
『打人就不對了!說什麼說!還有臉哭?!』對方家長劈頭就這樣堵我!          
                                                                           
我火氣也來了,決定嚇對方一下,開口就操台語開罵:                          
                                                                           
『幹!你是三小!沒看見恁倍在教厝裡的小孩講實話喔?!』                    
                                                                           
『你不滿的話,去傳人過來!』                                              
                                                                           
『恁倍最看不起不懂事理就說:打人就不對ㄟ人!』                            
                                                                           
對方先是愣住了!頓時聲音變得一片寧靜…                                     
                                                                           
(看來,社會上多數還真的欺負善良的人…!)                                 
                                                                           
打破沉寂,直接問老師發生事情的原委!                                      
                                                                           
沒想到老師也說不出所以然(這時候我的火氣真的來了),                      
                                                                           
於是我讓小外甥告訴大家為何他要打人!                                      
                                                                           
同時我要求被打的小朋友一起站在老師面前,要他們當面對質!                  
                                                                           
                                                                           
                                                                           
『美術課,我在做我的勞作啊!』                                            
                                                                           
『他很沒禮貌,過來借我的東西都不說一下!』                                
                                                                           
『但是我不想要借他啊!』                                                  
                                                                           
『他每次向人家借東西都不還,也不會珍惜…!』                               
                                                                           
『今天他拿了我的萬能糊就跑!我就衝過去要拿回來!』                        
                                                                           
『但是他都不還我,我也搶不回來!』                                        
                                                                           
『他突然把我的萬能糊往窗外丟,別的同學幫我撿起來!』                      
                                                                           
『他還用很難聽的話一直罵我…』                                             
                                                                           
『我叫他不要再亂罵,他就對我比中指,還向我吐口水…』指著自己的鞋子。       
                                                                           
『所以我生氣就一拳打過去…』                                               
                                                                           
『他…流鼻血了…』                                                          
                                                                           
小外甥低著頭,很後悔的表情。                                              
                                                                           
…………………                                                                   
                                                                           
……………………………                                                               
                                                                           
……………………………………………                                                         
                                                                           
當小外甥敘述過程的同時,我一直盯著這個小朋友和家長,                      
                                                                           
並不斷確認對方的反應,其實我完全相信小外甥不會亂說…                       
                                                                           
                                                                           
                                                                           
我回頭問挨打的小朋友:『 那時候 老師呢?!』                              
                                                                           
「上廁所…」他小聲的說。                                                   
                                                                           
『他講的有沒有不對的呢…?!』我接著問。                                   
                                                                           
「我有跟他借啊!」他反駁。                                                
                                                                           
『借個萬能糊也沒什麼啊…!』對方家長從旁幫腔。                             
                                                                           
『但是他有答應要借你嗎?!』我不讓他閃躲,他回答不上來…。                 
                                                                           
『小氣!借我們不就好了嗎…?!』對方家長這時理直氣壯的說。                 
                                                                           
我狠狠的瞪了對方家長一眼,這下真的是秀才遇到兵了…                         
                                                                           
知道不來些突然的手腕可能沒完沒了,立即轉頭告訴老師:                      
                                                                           
「既然家長這麼喜歡請警察來,                                              
                                                                           
還是請你撥電話請東門派出所的員警先生來一趟好了!」                        
                                                                           
這句話一出來,全部的人都愣住了!(包括對方家長)                          
                                                                           
接著我緩緩的說:                                                          
                                                                           
『今天我們的小孩的確打人,犯了錯,實在傷害了同學!』                      
                                                                           
『我們願意就法律層面完全負責,包括醫療賠償!』                            
                                                                           
『但沒經過別人的同意,私下拿就是偷,公開強取就是搶!』                    
                                                                           
『畢竟起因是對方強奪我們的物品,我們絕對不會放過!』                      
                                                                           
『搶奪他人財物屬於公訴罪,屬於非告訴乃論,一經提告就無法撤銷!』          
                                                                           
『未來提告的話,那個部分請他們自己負責!我就此先聲明!』                  
                                                                           
知道自己語氣說得很緩,但是絕對有很強的殺傷力!                            
                                                                           
                                                                           
                                                                           
老師當然不願意打這通電話,立即出來緩頰…                                   
                                                                           
但是我態度非常堅持,我說:                                                
                                                                           
『既然你們讓我出來處理,對方家長也只認為是我們家的小孩很小氣,            
                                                                           
似乎所有的錯都是我們造成的!我們何必再多有爭執呢?!』                    
                                                                           
『讓這件事直接交給司法公正單位處理,對大家不是另一種學習嗎?!』          
                                                                           
頓時對方家長突然像洩了氣的皮球,不能再多說什麼…!                         
                                                                           
趁著氣勢正強,我直接補了一句:                                            
                                                                           
『還是不要麻煩警察先生來這兒好了,我們一起前往警察局,好嗎?!』          
                                                                           
我直接走向對方家長面前,正式的邀約…                                       
                                                                           
                                                                           
                                                                           
半晌,對方家長看著我說:『有這麼嚴重嗎?!』                               
                                                                           
情勢演變讓我覺得對我方有利,但必須忍著些,我皺著眉頭說:                  
                                                                           
『我不知道!』                                                            
                                                                           
『因為是你們的態度讓我覺得很嚴重啊!!!』                                
                                                                           
『要找警察來,是你們先提出來的!』                                        
                                                                           
『一定要關我們家的小孩,也是你們堅持的!』                                
                                                                           
『換作是你,不嚴重嗎…?!』                                               
                                                                           
『只是我覺得來龍去脈既然我們都清楚了,我也認為必須採取行動啊!』          
                                                                           
『我不袒護自己的小孩,他有錯,就該承擔受罰!』                            
                                                                           
『但起因是你們的小孩搶奪,我也必須讓我的小孩知道我行事公正!』            
                       

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